I’m growing a little weary and frustrated at this perception by those who hold themselves out to be “pro-life” that those of us who are pro-choice are somehow morally inferior, and that “pro-choice” can pretty much be interchangeable with “pro-abortion.”
Being “pro-life” does not exist in a vacuum; being pro-choice certainly does not exclude choosing life. There are many, many, many people who hold themselves out to be staunchly pro-choice (like me) who value life – yes, even life of the unborn – who might never choose abortion for themselves. I don’t “choose choice over life”; it is entirely possible to be in favor of both choice and life.
It’s about believing in everyone’s fundamental right to choose for themselves. It’s about believing that every woman deserves to have control over her body, over the decisions that concern her body. Am I in favor of every choice people make? No. Some choices people make, and the reasons behind those choices, make me absolutely heartsick.
Being pro-choice means understanding that I don’t walk in anyone’s shoes but my own. It means that I understand that I have no right to impose my beliefs on somebody else when I cannot possibly know their life circumstances, their values, their mental or emotional or financial state – and I have no right to hold my values out to be superior to theirs.
God is pro-choice, Baby. If you’re inclined to believe in God, that is (and if you’re pro-life, I’m thinking this is a pretty good assumption). That’s what the all-important free will is – choice. Even God’s not willing to take that away.
All I can hope for as someone who is pro-choice is that people make their choices based on good information.
But they don’t always. I know that.
If I can help to change misconceptions that often lead to choices that might have been different? I’m all for that. That’s advocacy.
As for being pro-life: it shouldn’t stop at being against abortion. As one of my favorite bloggers wrote:
It means supporting programs that will help all those babies you don’t want to see aborted actually live healthy, quality lives. It means putting your money where your mouth is. It might even mean considering adopting one of those babies you don’t want to see aborted.
Otherwise, it’s just lip service.